Thank God for Praying Mothers

THANK GOD FOR PRAYING MOTHERS
BY-Nita Bourland for Mothers Day 2010

Thank God for praying Mothers
Whose Babe on Bosom lay
Praying to sustain this child
Each and every day.

Thank God for praying Mothers
Whose toddler often falls
Praying God will guide his steps
And he'll listen when God calls.

Thank God for praying Mothers
Whose prayers guide the teen
In choosing right from wrong
And help in ways unseen.

Thank God for praying Mothers
When the child is now full grown
To help in marriage and choices
To guide in ways unknown.

Thank God for praying Mothers
Who become elderly and frail
Often forgetting simple tasks
Crying to God who guides their trail.

Thank God for praying Mothers
To whom you have called on...
Whose child looks up to you in Faith
When she misses the Mother that is gone...

The Store

I didn't know if I could do it or not but I thought I would give it a try..
I am always willing to try at least once just to see if I can really do it..
This was going to be hard...extremely hard..

I had to pick a "Mothers day" card for a Secret Pal of mine in a Mothers Day exchange...
and here I was at the Card Isle..

At first I was OK..no problem..then there they were..staring at me so BIG and BOLD
To Mother from Daughter...I did not break down like I thought I would but I felt big tears in my
eyes...No one else was around...GOOD!!
I hate for others who are strangers to see me cry...I saw another woman pick up a card then
put it down and walk away to a different isle...
"Had she lost her Mother also??"
"Did she know what I was feeling down deep inside??"
"Did she not have children also?? Did she know the pain involved in anothers Mothers Day and this one without Mom??"

I quickly looked through the card grabbing those I needed...For a friend, another one for a lady
who encouraged Mom so much, and of course One for my Aunt...(I have her one every year and
she misses Mom as much as I do I am sure!!)
Then it caught my eyes...Yes so big and bright...a Special card...One that Mom would have given
to me...She knew I hated going to church on Mothers Day yet I took her because I cherish my Moments with her...to Honor and show my Love to her...So she would also give me a card...because she wanted me to be included on Mothers Day also..

On the Front it says "For Someone Special Who means a Lot to me" and on the inside it reads
"Its hard to find the words
For loving things I'ld like to say,
And all the special joys
I wish for you on Mothers Day---
But since you understand so well,
I know somehow you'll guess
How much you mean to me
How much I wish you happiness.
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY"

It will be my special card to ME from Mom and Me both...After all if I don't Love myself
first no one else wll and it is a card Mom would have wanted me to have..
I am so glad in our support group..Mr Gibson said...
"It is OK to be sad, or mad or depressed..It doesn't mean you are less of a Christian just that
you are Human" and in the next few weeks I will try to remember that I am Human..

Escaping down the road

At first we starting camping for FUN...we were young and had a tent...we dealt with rain and storms and life was simple...I still remember camping trips with Dad when I was growing up and now with my husband...
Then we got into Motorcycles and had a cargo trailer that held a tent...we packed it full...tent and sleeping bags...we then went onto a timeout trailer that you pull behind the motorcycle and it folded out into three rooms...
We are now outta bikes and life is slowing down a little
So we started out with a bumper pull trailer and now a fifth wheel (the dogs have more room to run...gotta get it for the dogs...LOL)
But we found our camping trips became stress free weekends because I had my dad in a nursing home and it was really hard...then Mom fell..I had to move her into Independent living..at one time I was trying to help both Mom and Dad and clean out their house with stuff accumulated for over 50 yrs plus go on our stress free camping trips...It was our get-away trips..
Well now Mom and Dad are gone...Mom passed in Dec and our neighbors to whom celebrated Holidays with us are moving and we are finding we have no family close to us...
So our camping trips are becoming Get-away from life trips...
When we are feeling sad...we go camping. When there is a Holiday and there are lots of families we go camping...Instead of the BIG Ham dinner for Easter (that Mom loved) we go camping with lots of chocolate and Hamburgers..
I was never privilaged to be a Mother however I would take Mom to church on Mothers day to honor her...I always felt out of place and when they had all the mothers stand except me It would hurt my heart down deep...so for Mothers Day I go camping with my husband and my two dogs...I can feel Human and my sensativity is not as previliant...
Camping is becoming a run-away lifestyle..but a free and easy one that makes us feel better..
We are in the 1% catagory that never had children and wanted to...Only God knows WHY but when we go camping we can get with Him and realize He does offer a way of escape...to enjoy His nature and His goodness and not feel so sad anymore...

Who am I???

In Sunday school today one of the ladies brought out that we often face an Identity crisis...
We are not cheerleaders any more, we are no longer students, or If we quite work we are no longer workers...
Then who are we??
That got me to thinking as I am facing that right now...
I am not a caregiver anymore, I am not a daughter, and I am not a Mother and will never be a
grandmother (a sadness that will never go away!!)
So who am I???
I think we think of ourselves humanly when we need to think in the Spiritual realm...
We may not be whom we want to be however I have a child of God, We are a creation of God, we are made in the image of God...
Is that enough??
My husband and I were also talking on the way home...sadness began to flood my soul...we started talking about Mom and Dad...I was having guilt feelings on things I could have done differently with Dad...My husband said "Oh no your Mother would have never liked it..she would have been upset" and I said...
If anyone ever happy?? You have little babies you are stressed, you have little children and you get stressed, You have teen-agers you get stressed, they grow up and leave you alone and you feel deserted, or if you never have children you are always sad and wished life would have been different...Are you ever happy???
One thing my Mom did teach me is this...if we were Happy all the time here on earth we would not want to go to Heaven...so if we just remember who we are and where we came from and where we are going God can get us through all the sad times, all the Mothers Day, all the Fathers days...all the Easters and Holidays without the parents and family...after all what is worse then not having a family on Easter??? It would be to not be a part of Gods Family in Heaven...
I am a Child of the King and I have a family...

Holidays from now on

Our neighbors whom we spent all the Holidays with are moving
That threw me into a slight depression a few weeks back however my "Girlfriends" helped get me through the little hurdle and assured me I was a Normal daughter missing her "mommy" LOL
So we are trying our best to adjust to life with only the two of us...I don't know too many couples like us who have no children nor relatives as ours won't contact us at all and I have tried to contact them but failed...I just recently bought a Pine Mtn SistersPillow to stitch and send to my sister for just a present!!So I have decided during this first year to NOT celebrate Holidays...For Easter we are going camping...No Ham dinner (Mom always liked Ham) I will take my favorite chocolate Easter eggs (cannot live without my chocolate) and my stitching and have a good week-end..I definately do not want to go to church in the crowd and see other families..
On Mothers Day (My worse since we have no children) another camping trip...I always honored my Mom by taking her to church however she made sure everyone knew she was the Mother and I was the child and we had no children...(Gotta love those Sr Citizens)Plans are to crochet a potholder as my Mom taught me to crochet then give it to someone to whom looks like the need a hug along the road...My neighbor I stitched a Heinzeit and Placed it on a Pillow...I posted it to my blog..I gave it to her a few days agoFor My Moms BD (also In April) I stitched a lizzie Kate (at least I think It was Lizzie Kate or something similiar) BD cakepattern and placed it in an ornament Holder and put my Moms BD on it and plans are to send it to Moms BD twin (not her actual twin but a lady who has the same BD and Year) they sent cards to each other every year!!I am taking it one day at a time one Holiday at a time and in the meantime downsizing my self...I have wayyyy too much baking and cookware for just two people and plans are when we get 10-15 yrs down the road to move into Independent living ourselves (Hello No cooking nor cleaning!!)Right now we have our stuff and parents stuff etc and wayyy too much stuff...Have had two garage sales but am tired of garage sales so Goodwill will get a big blessing!!

More on Mothers Day 2009

Last year I received a card from a girl who had just lost her Mom and I replied to her..

Because you have lost your Mom I felt you needed an extra special Card for Mothers Day
You were a very special daughter to her
This Mothers Day I have found that I never quit learning from my Mom
I listen to what she says even when I know she is wrong because of the respect I have for her.
I am also learning to Follow her Moms example...she may have Good examples and she may have bad examples but I am leaning from both, the Good and the bad because we learn from Our Mothers mistakes.
The day has come when I DO know more than your Mother but I have learned not to let her know that. As I Help her to walk I have learned to cherish those walks (no matter how slow she becomes), I have learned to Think for My Mom and it is special because I realize that she is placing all her trust in me because she brought you up to be Trustworthy
I am writing this not just for YOU but also for ME as well because I am dealing with an elderly Mom and like it or Not we will all be there.
I am pleased to be you Friend, and your adopted Mom and if you need anything I am here for you.
I have also learned that every woman has a Mothers Heart and has a tender and caring nature.
Love you


Your Friend from Oklahoma

Mothers Day 2009

Mothers Day last year, Mother and I attended a Mother/Daughter luncheon. First I went early to help Mom get dressed we both wore dresses I tried to fix up her hair and I put a little bit of Make-up on her. The first thing they did was take Individual Pictures of the Mothers and daughters...If they did not have a daughter or their daughter was not available they brought daughter-in-law, or grand-daughter etc. Then we went in where they had assigned seating...We had a very elegant Lunchtuna salad with croisants, potato salad, cranberry Muffin, fruit with whipped cream and cheese cake with cherry topping and tea or coffeethen for the program they had one of the workers daughters sing a very lovely and touching song, the activities director also read a poem about mothers and what a Mother is etc. In it she mentioned that it was for all the Mothers who never had children of their own but Mothered all the others children, then she told about her Mother (to whom she lost 2 yrs ago) It was very touching and then she had volunteers from the daughters tell about their mothers...I was able to tell my Mom how much she meant to me...they then sang again and had door prizes by the time it was all over with there was not a dry eye in the room...It was very special and I am so glad I went with my Mom..

I told my Mom how she helped me when I was a child and now it was my turn to help her, to help her dress, to help her walk, to be there for her..Later on Mom commented on how much that meant to her as at her age they often feel like they are a burden...I am now so glad I was able to tell her how much she has meant to me.